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We understand. The world of online dating is confusing and sometimes scary. And if you’re looking for that special someone to spend a lifetime with, the stakes are that much higher.

That’s why at we’ve started “Ask Anna”, a new feature where Anna will answer all the questions you’ve ever had about navigating the process of finding a mail order bride…successfully!


Today’s Topic: Loneliness During the Holidays, Wearing Cologne, Why Women Love Funny Men


Dear Anna,

I hate the holidays. This is the time when my singleness really hits home. I see my friends with their loved ones and I just wait for the holidays to pass so I don’t feel like a total outcast. What can I do to relieve my loneliness?


Loner in Lincoln


Dear Loner,

Holidays are a tough time for many of us. While we see pictures of our friends on Facebook with their wives, kids, girlfriends, it only drives home for those of you who are still single.

This can be made worse if you live far away from close friends and family. And during the holidays, friends who used to be available might be busy with family gatherings and other obligations.

Even with the advent of social media which is supposed to bring us together, it can amplify the feelings of loneliness for those who haven’t found that special someone yet.

I get it and take comfort that you aren’t alone (no pun intended). Try to spend time with your family, or seek out others who may be just as lonely, invite them for a get-together, some food, drinks and board games. Seek out volunteer work at your local church and see how giving back can make you feel good. Use the down time to knock off some of those pesky chores you’ve been meaning to do. Enjoy your “me time” and read a book or watch a favorite DVD.  Exercising is also a known way to beat the blues.

Whatever you do, don’t succumb to the loneliness. Sites like Single Brides are here to do what we can to find you your soulmate.

Trust Anna: Don’t let loneliness get you down. Face it, tackle it and go around it.


Dear Anna,

I love my cologne but lately I’m wondering if I’m using too much. People around me sometimes have odd expressions on their faces where they crinkle their noses. What should I do?


Smelling Good?


Dear Smelling,

While it’s true that women love men who smell and look good, you can always have too much of a good thing.

Do you spritz your cologne once or twice? If so, you’re likely fine. If you spray more than three times, you’re treading in dangerous waters. Too much cologne can be sickly and even give women headaches. The last thing you want to do is to give your date a migraine, not quite the lasting impression you want to make!

Try asking a close female friend for their honest opinion on how you smell. There’s also something to be said for just the good, clean odor of soap and shampoo. And women even like the whiff of the natural male, pheromones and all that jazz.

Trust Anna: If you smell bad, dousing with cologne won’t help.


Dear Anna,

I’m a good looking guy. Every time I look in the mirror, it agrees with me. Yet I have trouble finding dates or getting second ones. Then I see ugly guys with some pretty hot chicks who laugh as they talk. What gives?


Hot Henry


Dear Hot,

First of all, lose the conceit. Nothing turns off a woman faster than a guy who spends more time looking in the mirror than her. And it also isn’t attractive to be a preening guy who thinks he’s God’s gift to women.

In fact, women are just as (or more) turned on by a man’s personality than just sheer physical appearance. Yes, we know, men are usually the opposite. But that’s why you’ll often see beautiful women with plain looking guys. And no, it’s not because those guys are all rich or well-endowed!

Women love men who can make them laugh. A stellar sense of humor is a trait that everyone appreciates: dates, friends, family, co-workers and bosses. Try to lighten up and be more self-deprecating. This means not being afraid to make fun of yourself, and not taking yourself so damn seriously. You just might be pleasantly surprised at the results of making your date laugh.

Trust Anna: Turn that frown upside down, and make a woman laugh.


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